Fabulous Fay, lovely to have the pleasure to speak with you again. How have you been?
Great Rosie, thanks for asking. I’ve been performing a lot and last weekend I saw Dita von Teese perform her Art of Teese show. It was amazing! Besides you, she is one of my biggest sources of inspiration.
Sounds great! But how have you really been?
Well, I did have a little glitter crash after my last gig. The glitter crash is the burlesque term for the dip you can feel after performing or attending a burlesque show or festival.
I know, I know, it’s very common. Hell, even I have them.
Glad to hear I’m not alone. Performing is just a very intensive activity. Most often I get into a state of hyperfocus and get a rush of energy, which lasts until hours after my show. Unfortunately, it often comes with a slight downer some days later.
Ugh, do you also get unhappy thoughts?
I’ve had difficult times in the past dealing with unhappy thoughts. During one of those difficult times, I started asking for help because I didn’t know how to deal with it anymore. I found a very good and nice therapist who taught me to listen less to the unhappy thoughts and that a downer is always a temporary thing (for me at least).
Care to share some reflections and tips to help others deal with the glitter crash?
When I find myself in a slight crash after some glittery days I do the following things that really help me.
It always helps me to do something to get my heart racing. I like to go to the gym to train with my trainer Robbert Miedema or follow yoga or Pilates class. A very low-intensity training that I love is yin yoga.
I meditate daily around 30 till 45 minutes. When I feel a little down I go for an even longer mediation.
When I do a lot of shows my sleeping pattern is completely off. It’s very important to get enough sleep during my free days.
I tend to isolate myself a bit on days I don’t have to perform. During a show night, I’m surrounded by sometimes familiar but mostly all new people. So on days off I often stay at home to recharge. But I actually feel much better if I go out for dinner or have a drink with a friend.
During show day it’s difficult for me to eat enough and eat healthy. I’m not allowed to eat a lot of things, link gluten and cow milk. Which makes it difficult to eat out. When I’m at home I always cook a healthy meal for myself with a lot of vegetables. And I skip most processed products containing sugar, like chocolate and soda’s.
Be kind to myself
It doesn’t work to get irritated by yourself when you already feel a bit down. A very relaxing thought to have is that I sometimes just need a little time, patience and self care to feel better.
See art (museum theatre)
It’s very nice to see beautiful paintings, fascinating pictures or a glorifying opera when you feel a little uninspired yourself. Go out and explore
A special thank you to Gypsy Rose Lee for finding the time in her busy life, performing her ass off up in burlesque heaven, to interview me.
Banner picture by Martijn Fincke